The Question of Love is a movie made for Valentine and highly recommended for all those seeking love, in love or longing for love. This age old question is key to what makes the world go around and perhaps the most important topic for every individual to explore.
In a world rife with consumerism, where online dating promises risk-free romance and love is all too often seen as a variant of desire and hedonism, France’s greatest living philosopher Alain Badiou believes that love urgently needs reinventing and defending.
My favourite explanation by Alain Badiou is the change that takes place going from one to two, since no amount of reason can explain the indescribable hidden yet subtle differences of couples from singles. The evidence of successful pairs is consistent throughout nature, we are wired for mates.
It’s possible that the key to happiness is to love yourself enough, to be able to drop your own guard, take the risk and seek romance by whatever means possible. By loving yourself first, the suffering of rejection is taken in stride as part of the process but you will have defined what you’d like to find in a partner by having become that person.
The first encounter is everything, as it sets the stage for any future. Then what has to happen is a friendship must be kindled, against all odds, in a short amount of time. You must display enough kindness and intelligence in the first five minutes, with a massive amount of confidence, in order to have a second chance to develop a relationship.
For romance to blossom to love requires either trust or blind faith. Trust takes time and consideration, whereas blind faith usually doesn’t work out too well. In today’s world the courtship is most likely online, to a certain degree because of social media and the mobile phone.
So there are multiple factors involved in gaining the opportunity to build trust, with that special person you desire. However, know this; friendship is the foundation of real true love and it begins with trust.
The question of love, is the only question, you ever need to ask yourself.